It is National Infertility Awareness Week and the theme this year is Start Asking. I would like to share our journey and #StartAsking others to do the same so we can reduce the stigma around infertility.
- October 2010 – Married! Woohoo! We begin casually trying to get pregnant and figure it will happen when the time is right.
- May 2011 – Still not pregnant. I start obsessing (as usual), and we start using ovulation predictor kits.
- July 2011 – Make an appointment with first RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist) and we get a ton of tests done. At the age of 26, I am diagnosed Diminished Ovarian Reserve. Basically I didn’t have a ton of eggs left, and the ones that were remaining may have been of low quality.
- August 2011 – April 2012 – We do 1 Clomid cycle and 6 cycles with Follistim. I am basically in menopause during these cycles and experience hot flashes, mood swings and giant ovaries. I make a ton of eggs (a surprising response) but I am still not pregnant.
- May 2012 – Meet with a new RE and decide to move forward with IVF.
- June 2012 – Start 1st IVF cycle.
- July 2012 – They retrieve 22 eggs!!! We end up with 6 healthy embryos on day 5!! We implant 2 embryos.
- August 2012 – FINALLY pregnant with 1 perfect baby. Grayson arrives in April 2013.
- September 2014 – We implant 2 embryos again and I am pregnant with twins! The girls arrive in May 2015.
Infertility is the hardest thing I have ever been through. While I was going through all of these treatments and heartbreaks, I still had to be a functioning adult. I had to go to work, social events, and family functions when I felt like I was dying inside. A small group of friends and family knew what we were going through, but didn’t really know how to address it with us. Looking back, I wish I hadn’t been so embarrassed and ashamed. I wish I let more people know what was going on and there wasn’t such a stigma. So I am going to #StartAsking people to share their journey, and #StartAsking people to support others going through infertility.